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Stuck: Accepting The One I Love




Lie: I love you and everything about you.


Stuck: I can’t accept you until you become acceptable. You have not earned my acceptance.

Stress, Performance, Fears, Affection, Spending, Sense of humor, Driving skills, pets.


Your response reveals the truth - Anger, Frustration, Comparison, Giving up, Pulling away or distancing, mocking, Disappointment, Making up for them, treat them like children.

Big Idea: Living for the day when your love lives up to your expectations guarantees they never will. Committing to accept them as they are, sets you up to grow and sets them up for God to grow them.

Take yourself out of the equation and look at them from God’s perspective.

Philippians 2:3-4


Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves, not looking to your own interests but each of you to the interests of the others.

Philippians 2:5-7


In your relationships with one another, have the same mindset as Christ Jesus: Who, being in very nature God, did not consider equality with God something to be used to his own advantage; rather, he made himself nothing by taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness.


  1. God created him/her in his image

  2. He/She is in a war with their old nature.


Romans 7:19


For I do not do the good I want to do, but the evil I do not want to do—this I keep on doing.


  1. He/She answers to Jesus, not you, and only Jesus can change them.


Romans 14:4