That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.
“Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female,’ and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? So, they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, let no one separate.”
Marriage changes your identity: I am _____________ husband and I am ____________wife and we are one.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy…. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church—
1 Peter 3:3-5
Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to adorn themselves. They submitted themselves to their own husbands,
1 Peter 3:7
Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.
Identity determines your roles
Husbands have a role: Love, provide, cherish, and live with understanding.
Wives have a role: Submit, honor, come along side of, and respect.
Both require that you listen to their heart!
Are you busy building deep connection or ignoring each other’s heart?
1. Embrace your identity.
a. I am a husband.
b. I am a wife.
2. Be your best you. “A little secret: listen, explore and discover.”
a. Act on what you know.
b. Be forever discovering your spouse.
i. Accept and be thankful for who they are
ii. Ask questions
iii. Use conflict and trouble as learning moments
iv. Observe without judgement
3. Risk it all by sharing who you are.
a. Not to get what you need and want, but to let them connect.
4. Trust God for your needs and wants.
“Come unto me all who are weary and burdened”