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Calling Her


Calling Her  

The House of Mirrors 

  1. Never put yourself in a position where you need a man. 

  1. Never lose your identity as a woman. 

  1. Never let anyone tell you what to do. 

  1. If God does want me to submit to my husband, give me the list. 

  1. I have tried so hard to work on our marriage (meaning getting my husband to be a better husband). 


What does God say? 

Genesis 2:18 

The Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” 

Ephesians 5:22 

Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 

Ephesians 5:33 

However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.

1 Corinthians 11:3 

But I want you to realize that the head of every man is Christ, and the head of the woman is man, and the head of Christ is God. 

1 Peter 3:1-6(a) 

Wives, in the same way submit yourselves to your own husbands so that, if any of them do not believe the word, they may be won over without words by the behavior of their wives, when they see the purity and reverence of your lives. Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to adorn themselves. They submitted themselves to their own husbands, like Sarah, who obeyed Abraham and called him her lord.


Good Soil   

  • Who gets to define who you are? 

  • Who defines your role in the relationship? 

  • Who is responsible for leading you?  

  • Who can you trust? 


When the answer is “I will” 

  • You will find it restricting and harsh to respect your husband, submit to him, or call him Lord. 

  • He will become a toy to delight and serve you. 

  • He will become a vehicle to help you build your life. 

  • He will become an asset or an obstacle in raising your kids.  

  • He will become a drag on your spiritual life. 


When the answer is “Jesus will”  

  • You will turn your heart toward your husband. 

  • He will become the one you delight in serving and caring for.  

  • You will delight in building him and leave the life building to God. 

  • You will build him up as a father and be more focused on your kids growing up in a home where Mom loves Dad rather than your kids having it all. 

  • You will trust God for your spiritual life and honor his headship. If his decisions are not sinful, you’re going to give your whole heart to walk with him. 


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