Jersey Wisdom: Handling Toxic People

A toxic co-worker makes me feel worse about myself with every interaction.

Wisdom in the world

“Wisdom will save you from evil people, from those whose speech is corrupt. These people turn from right ways to walk down dark and evil paths. They rejoice in doing wrong, and they enjoy evil as it turns things upside down. What they do is crooked, and their ways are wrong. Wisdom will save you from the immoral woman, from the flattery of the adulterous woman. She has abandoned her husband and ignores the covenant she made before God. Entering her house leads to death; it is the road to hell. The man who visits her is doomed. He will never reach the paths of life.” Proverbs 2:12-19 (NLT)

The lack of wisdom leads nowhere, while gaining wisdom leads everywhere.

WISDOM WITH THE TOXIC REQUIRES ME TO...

RECOGNIZE THE BIGGER ISSUES AT WORK

1. I can’t control other people
2. I can’t force others to change
3. Imperfect people sin and cause damage

ASK FOR GOD’S WISDOM

“Getting wisdom is the most important thing you can do!... If you prize wisdom, she will exalt you. Embrace her and she will honor you.”

Proverbs 4:7-8 (NLT)

AVOID THE TOXIC OPEN DOORS

“Do not do as the wicked do or follow the path of evildoers. Avoid their haunts. Turn away and go somewhere else, for evil people cannot sleep until they have done their evil deed for the day. They cannot rest unless they have caused someone to stumble.” Proverbs 4:14-16 (NLT)

“My child, if sinners entice you, turn your back on them!” Proverbs 1:10 (NLT)

USE THE WORDS THAT BUILD UP

“The words of the wicked are like a murderous ambush, but the words of the godly save lives.” Proverbs 12:6 (NLT)

“A gentle answer turns away wrath, but harsh words stir up anger.”
Proverbs 15:1 (NLT)

“When arguing with fools, don't answer their foolish arguments, or you will become as foolish as they are.” Proverbs 26:4 (NLT)

“Leave your foolish ways behind, and begin to live; learn how to be wise.” Proverbs 9:6 (NLT)